Flirting with your crush can make you nervous, especially when it’s over text. You might struggle to find the right words. Unlike in person, you can’t rely on gestures like eye contact or smiles. Research from Texas Tech and Xavier Universities shows that factors like gender, how you flirt (in person or over text), and whether you’re in a relationship can affect why we flirt.
Asking questions, giving compliments, and using emojis can help. Your flirty texts could lead to a real conversation or even a date. Follow the below tips for flirting over text to get your crush’s attention.
10 Tips for Flirt Over Text
1. Refuse to Settle for “Hey”
Don’t just say “hey” when you’re starting a conversation. Use something more interesting to catch their attention. Instead of just “hi” or “hey,” try something like asking them about their preference between Dunkin’ Donuts and Starbucks, or whether they prefer Taco Bell or Chipotle.
You could also ask for a new show to watch on Netflix, share a funny TikTok video, or tell them you’re looking forward to seeing them at the party. Starting with something more engaging can lead to a better conversation.
2. Ask Questions
When you ask fun and thoughtful questions, it shows that you care and want to know about what’s happening in their life. You can ask simply like “how are you?” or talk about summer plans, what books they’re reading, or if they like watching food videos on TikTok. Starting a conversation this way is easy and works well.
3. Sense of Humor is the Key
Tell him/her a funny TikTok, meme, or story from your day. Laughing together makes you feel closer and adds a playful, flirty vibe to your chat. A study from 2015 in the Journal of International Association for Relationship Research showed that sharing laughter strengthens connections, so let’s work on our sense of humor together!
4. Offering Compliment
Say something nice to make them happy, like telling them their new shoes look cool, the outfit is really looking cool on you, or that they did great in their basketball game or on their test. It will make them feel really good.
5. Use Emojis
Emojis are now a big game changer. Emojis can make your texts more fun. Use eye emoji 👀 when you give a sweet compliment, it makes them blush. Use a goofy face 🤪 when you’re teasing them. And always send a hearty 🫶🏻 for good morning or good night texts.
6. Avoid Sending Multiple Consecutive Messages
Avoid sending too many messages at once. While it might seem like a good idea to keep texting, sending multiple messages can be overwhelming. It’s okay to send a couple of messages if the conversation is flowing that way.
But if you notice that the other person isn’t responding as quickly, try not to send another message right away. It can be frustrating when someone doesn’t reply, but there could be many reasons for it – they might be busy with something else like class, work, or even asleep. Give them some time to respond.
7. Keep your Messages Short and Sweet
Don’t write too much because it might seem too eager. Think of flirting through text like playing table tennis – quick and fun, but you still need to keep your focus. Feel free to use emojis to set the mood you want.
8. Hint at your Feelings
Sometimes, it’s good to be a little obvious when you’re flirting, but not too much. Use emojis to help express yourself, but don’t be too direct – leave something to their imagination.
9. Timing Matters
Send your texts at times when they’ll be thinking about you. But don’t bombard them with messages. Remember, it’s like playing table tennis – wait for them to respond before sending more.
A good idea is to text them in the morning when they wake up or before they go to bed. You can casually mention they were in your dream without making a big deal out of it.
10. Don’t Disappear Without Explanation
Don’t disappear suddenly. Nowadays, we use the term ‘don’t ghost’. If you’re having a great conversation but need to go do something else like work or practice, it’s important to let the other person know. Leaving them without a response for hours might make them think you’re not interested.
Instead, send them a message explaining that you have to leave but would like to talk more later. This isn’t always necessary, especially if you’ll only be away for a short time, but it’s a considerate thing to do.
Final Note
So now you know how to flirt over text like a pro! Here are some extra tips: If you’ve met in person or talked a lot, use your flirty texts to make a joke you both understand. Jokes make people feel close and happy. Adding emojis can help show your feelings, but don’t use too many.
What you say matters most, and emojis just add some fun. Remember, texting is good for getting someone interested, but flirting in person is best. So, use texts to plan your next date and show off your flirting skills face to face!
Also read: 10 Tips to Build a Good Relationship with your Boyfriend
